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Hello Loves!
Happiest Tuesday to you! How was your weekend?? I’ve been having such a great time up in Northern California! I love it up here SO much and every time I come visit, it’s so clear to me that I’m meant to live here! I love the slower pace of life, being surrounded by my family and long time-friends, oh and the wine tasting and beautiful countryside doesn’t hurt!! I love getting out of the congestion and craziness of Orange County every so often.
Today I wanted to discuss something that I mentioned earlier this weekend on Instagram stories. Usually I try to keep my social media pretty positive, but I ALWAYS want everything I’m putting out there to be as authentic as possible. That being said, on Friday I was having a bit of a crappy day. I went back and forth on if I should share it on social media, and ultimately decided that the situation had a really important takeaway that I wanted to share with you guys!
So, let me give you a little background info on what went down. Basically, Dylan and I found out that some people in our lives (that we are close to) had passed some judgment about me being a a blogger, my work situation, and about blogging in general not being a “real job.” Instantly, I was pretty bothered by what was said, probably for a different reason than what you would think!
At this point in my life, I realize that some people might not recognize blogging as a “real career.” This is because it hasn’t been around for a long time and ultimately people aren’t informed about how much work actually goes into full-time blogging! I’m so thankful and lucky that this “work” is my biggest passion, and doesn’t always feel like work because of how much it makes me happy! Somedays I realize 13 hours of sitting in my office have gone by before I even know it, because I’m working away on this blog, my passion project. 🙂 I also do social media consulting and branding, which I enjoy VERY much too! The whole digital space as a career excites me endlessly because I truly believe there is so much opportunity out there waiting for us! More on that later!
What ultimately bothered me about this judgment that was passed, was that the parties involved didn’t take the time to ask or gather the details about the situation before they said some not-so-nice things & judged me and the career path I’ve chosen. I feel really thankful this happened because it got me thinking about how incredibly important it is to ASK before we judge!! It’s so easy these days, especially with social media (where everything looks pretty), to assume that people live these perfect lives without struggle or simply woke up and arrived at success. It’s far too easy (and common) that we assume we know the whole situation, when actually what we know are a FEW tiny details. This experience made me realize how important it is (in my opinion) to try as hard as we can to take the time to ask a person about their situation and gather all the details before we pass judgment.
I’m not writing this post in ANY means to shame or show anger towards the friends who judged me, in fact (like I said) I’m grateful it happened because it lead to this realization! As humans, we are prone to passing judgment on others. In a sense, it’s normal. I know I sometimes do it without even realizing it!! My point of writing this post, is to challenge us all to take the high road and gather all the details of a person’s situation before passing judgment! Maybe asking a person about their situation before judging it, would change that person’s whole week! You never know! Another thing- you will feel proud of yourself for taking the high road.
This experience brought to light for me ways that I too might be passing judgment! A lot of times it happens when I look at other bloggers’ pages. I assume everything is as perfect as it looks in photos, even though I know that isn’t the case! Because of this experience, I’m fully committing to being more aware of passing any judgment before I know the full details of the situation!
Some other thoughts on judgment–
- Judgment and negativity take some serious ENERGY. Rather than spreading negativity, I believe wholeheartedly that choosing positivity is what will help you create a life filled with love and success.
- Be mindful of your thoughts, like I mentioned above, you might not even know if you are being judgmental. Judgment can be sneaky, especially in today’s world of social media.
- Give yourself and everyone else as much grace as you can. We all need a break and some extra love! We’re all just doing the best we can.
- If a person passes judgment on you, it actually has NOTHING to do with you!! It has everything to do with how they see themselves. We are all mirrors of one another, so if something bothers you in someone else or if you find yourself judging someone else, that judgment is a reflection of the person passing judgment (not the person being judged).
Ever heard the saying “what Susie says about Sally, actually has more to do with Susie than Sally?? Couldn’t be more true!!
I would love to hear what you guys think?? What are your thoughts on passing judgment?
Look– // Summer Dress // Necklace // Sunnies // Shoes (similar)
Look– // Summer Dress // Necklace // Sunnies // Shoes (similar)
Look– // Summer Dress // Necklace // Sunnies // Shoes (similar)
Look– // Summer Dress // Necklace // Sunnies // Shoes (similar)
Look– // Summer Dress // Necklace // Sunnies // Shoes (similar)
