My Look: | Pink SweatshirtΒ |Β Jeans
Hi Friends!
WHEW, this week/ weekend/ month has been a serious whirlwind…
In case you missed it, I announced that Dylan and I are officially leaving Orange County over on this Instagram Post the other day! I feel like I haven’t done a “life update” blog post in a while and figured that this would be the perfect time since SO much is happening and changing right now. There will also be a post soon all about our move, why we’re moving, where we’re moving, etc. so stay tuned for that!
I turned 25 on Saturday but officially celebrated the midpoint of my twenties on Sunday because I woke up Saturday morning with the craziest case of food poisoning… ever. I literally woke Dylan up by projectile vomiting all over our bedroom floor #GLAMOROUS. Thankfully, the food poisoning only lasted the one day and I woke up feeling MUCH better by Sunday morning. Nothing makes you appreciate feeling good more than a nasty case of food poisoning. LOL, serious struggle. We ended up having such a wonderful and relaxing Sunday and day of birthday celebrations! Basically, we had a lazy coffee filled morning, opened gifts, danced around with the pink balloons in these photos, shot this blog post, and went to my favorite restaurant, True Foods for dinner.
Twenty-five is probably the first birthday I’ve had that feels like a real milestone of adulthood. It’s also the first age I’ve turned that actually feels like there are some sort of pressures attached to it. I was telling my good friend the other day that I have this stigma in my mind that 25 sounds like an age you kind of need to have your “sh*t together.” This might sound silly or like I’m putting too much pressure on myself, but really it was just the first thing that came to mind when I started to think about this age. As I got to thinking more about turning 25, my life, all that I’m grateful for, and this notion of “having our sh*t together,” I started to wonder what exactly that even means… With so much of my work being in the online and social media space, I like to try and keep things as transparent and real as possible. As old as I get, I will never be the girl who has things all together all of the time. It’s just not me and has never been me. In my personal opinion, I think that this is part of the beauty of life!
In my 25 years, I’ve learned that life isn’t really about creating the illusion that you have your “sh*t together” all the time but rather becoming comfortable with being open and vulnerable & sharing that there are many days where you feel messy, raw, and generally not-together. There are days where I wear bright lipstick and actually do my hair and are many other days where I wear pimple cream all day and eat protein style In N Out on the couch. BOTH of these are acceptable and should be celebrated rather than judged! Another secret I’ve learning in my 25 years is that really NONE of us have it all together! When I was younger, I believed I would reach an age where I would become “an adult” and would have everything all figured out. NOPE! Now that I’m older, I realize that life consists of a series of figuring sh*t out, day in and day out, never giving up, and working daily at what you want. I’m not exactly sure what inspired this post but I wanted to get it out there as I don’t think it’s something that’s talked about very much! I guess my intention is that we can all be a little easier on ourselves and give a big middle finger to the voice in our heads that tell us we need to be doing X at X age.
Often times when you start dating someone seriously, people will ask you when you are going to get engaged? Then, when you get engaged, it becomes “when’s the wedding?” After that, it’s “when are you having babies?!!” I’m here today to tell you that there is literally no age map to when you need to have different milestones in life. If you want to do all the above things, that’s amazing! It’s amazing if you do them at age 21 or age 51, or whatever age is right for you. There is no right or wrong answer and don’t ever let anyone make you feel like you “should” be doing something just because society tells you it’s the right time.
I hope this post wasn’t too much of a rant!! I mean all of it in a very positive way and was just thinking that this isn’t something that’s talked about enough. I’m positive I’m not the only one who was feeling this way and would LOVE to chat with you if you have felt the same. As always, thank you so much for reading and stopping by! I so appreciate you.
2 comments
Can I just say that you are on the right track with thinking we don’t have to have it all together. I can say that because I am turning 49 next week. I have a big milestone bday next year. The beauty of getting older has been settling into my own person-hood, who God made me, unique and different. Something I am just starting to celebrate! Took me a some time and a few rough patches but finally getting it from my head down to my heart. I need to give credit where credit is due…it’s been God who’s done the good work in me. Love your posts even though I’m just about twice your age!
Thank you so much, Eileen!! π Happy birthday to you! I definitely agree that it’s all God in my life as well! I’m so glad you love my posts, I so appreciate you reading! XO